A Wren Says

At approximately 7:27 AM, a car zooms out in front of me in the neighborhood. I was frustrated. The driver ran the stop sign, and was forced to me to wait as he/she/someone annoying was stuck unable to turn left as the incoming traffic picked up. I grumbled, that I just needed to turn right. Why didn’t you let me keep going?

Then it happened again. And again. Each morning at the same time. Each time I was frustrated. And then I realized the problem was me. Instead of starting every morning angry, I changed my approach. I left earlier, or slight later, or simply chuckled at the consistency. Let’s take that to the rest of life.

How many times have you been left wondering, “How could she say that? Why would he do that? How could this be happening again?” Your frustration. Your anger. All of it is real and valid. But isn’t getting old?

Those words, those actions were not at all out of character for the person you were dealing with. Your pattern detection has noted this has been a recurring thing. There might be a slight remix, but you’re getting pretty much the exact same results that you have always gotten. It’s not anything new, and yet you’re surprised. Again. Why are you surprised?

It’s time to accept that this person, this situation continues to stay the same. It’s time to take courage and implement the change for yourself.

Maybe that means drastic measures like breaking a friendship, quitting a job, or going no-contact. Or perhaps it’s a simple as taking a breath and detaching. It is what it is and what it has been, and I release it.