A Wren Says

I told the story. He waited for his chance to respond and started, “This is the problem with people like you,”

What a bold way to start.

“You look at your problems that you have at work and with other people and deem yourself the problem. ‘I should just try harder. I should stop being lazy. I should do things better.’ When in reality you weren’t the problem. You just wished it was you, because then at least you know you could change.”

It was eye-opening. Most of all it was true.

It’s, in a strange way, empowering, to believe that I am the problem. It places the locus of control dead center on me. The situation is mine to fix. But to admit the real issue, the real immovable force is a person who won’t change and has continuously revealed an identity that shouldn’t have ever led me to believe otherwise? That’s hard.

I want to change. I try hard to change, but that isn’t always the best solution. Sometimes you have to leave. That job, that relationship, that business venture. You’ve looked in the mirror long enough. It’s time to look elsewhere.