Category: Reflection
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Asking for help is assertiveness
I know personally I was formed with the belief that asking for help meant you were weak. To appear strong or powerful, it was necessary to at least look like I were able to do it all myself. Yet TJ Guttormsen (in his LinkedIn Learning course on communication which I can’t remember the name of)…
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Skincare as a not so vain pursuit
I write about skincare pretty frequently. But if you were to ask me about what products I use in person, I would probably shy away from telling you. For one, it may not work as well for you, but also because I don’t want to be judged for investing so much in it. As I…
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You are not failing. You are human
I was using my meditation app, Insight Timer. On there is a meditation by Sarah Blondin. During it she says that line, “You are not failing; you are human.” And that really hit me. I probably have misquoted it. I can’t remember the name of the mediation. I don’t even know if I have spelt…
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Just a reflection on what African fashion is
Take a moment. Think about Africa. What came to mind? Did you think about the landscape? Maybe the Sahara or the Serengeti first popped up. Or perhaps You thought you thought of historical events, maybe the pyramids. Or maybe Afrobeats music. Quick question, was the first thing you thought of poverty? War? Corruption? Look, no…
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A cheap shortcut is more expensive in the long run
I started composing this piece sitting outside in the heat of late summer. Let me tell you, it is not because I wanted to enjoy the summer sun while we still have it. Certainly not because I wanted the health benefits of sweating or humidity. No, it was because I locked my key inside the…
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Salmon toast, out of focus
After a poor attempt at a workout, I went to the shop next to the gym to order a recovery smoothie. (That was just the name, not that I needed much of a recovery based on the effort I put in, but that is neither here nor there.) I saw they also had salmon toast…
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Take other people’s fragrance opinions as one data point. Make sure you try it on yourself.
Fully recognizing that I have been writing up my own opinions on various fragrances, I need to make this disclosure. You really have to try fragrances out for yourself. My opinion, and anyone else’s for that matter, is just one data point. You need to have your own experience and come to your own conclusions.…
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What people get wrong when they talk about dupes
Not that anyone asked for my opinion, but this is what I think people get wrong about the idea of dupes. I watched a woman review La Mer. Because I possibly hate my life, I decided to descend into the comment section. “Ugh, I don’t get why people spend that much money when Nivea will…
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Thinking more on appropriation, with a lens on Demna Gvalsia
Still thinking on appropriation. My thought is that there has to be a space where you can be inspired by the world around you. There is a space for blatant mimicry. There is also a space where you can manipulate what you see around you as a form of commentary. That is the space I…
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Reflection on cultural appropriation in fashion
The other day, I did a post about the controversy surrounding a Dior skirt, that uncannily resembles a Chinese style that is centuries old. That triggered me to start thinking of the idea of cultural appropriation more generally. I was going to post this the very next thing, but I was afraid of writing the…
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