Category: Reflection
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Revealing boundaries
Yesterday, I had a phone call with a friend. I asked, “Hey have you checked out my blog?” Crickets. Then as she started to scroll through, she asked if I would be willing to take requests. And then she asked if I could write about boundaries. So here goes I have none. Quick blog post,…
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Before calling yourself lazy…
In this culture of productivity and hustle, it can be easy to get in to the habit of comparing yourself to others and thinking about what they have accomplished that you haven’t. I had been feeling completely inadequate. I had been feeling like there was no hope that I could take my career to a…
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Again on cultural appropriation, this time it’s Hailey Bieber
When she applied the brown lip liner, softened the edges, and added the layer of gloss, Hailey Bieber likely had no idea controversy would come of her posting “Brownie Glaze lips.” As her fans clamored to copy her and call the technique Hailey Bieber lips, they did so with the bliss of ignorance. After all,…
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The balance between my wants and fears
Recently I thought about all of the people full of potential we have lost too soon. All of the people who still haven’t made their mark. How I still haven’t made mine. I considered the amount of anxiety I have when it comes to putting myself out there. The amount of fear I feel is…
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Saving money or getting my money’s worth: Just reflecting on how I want to travel from now on.
As I began writing this post, I was staying at a hotel in Boston with my family. I booked hotel nearby where we would need to go. My choice was driven by the combination of that convenience and cost. Wow, I realize how spoiled I was staying at the 1 Hotel Brooklyn Bridge. What I…
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Asking for help is assertiveness
I know personally I was formed with the belief that asking for help meant you were weak. To appear strong or powerful, it was necessary to at least look like I were able to do it all myself. Yet TJ Guttormsen (in his LinkedIn Learning course on communication which I can’t remember the name of)…
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Skincare as a not so vain pursuit
I write about skincare pretty frequently. But if you were to ask me about what products I use in person, I would probably shy away from telling you. For one, it may not work as well for you, but also because I don’t want to be judged for investing so much in it. As I…
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You are not failing. You are human
I was using my meditation app, Insight Timer. On there is a meditation by Sarah Blondin. During it she says that line, “You are not failing; you are human.” And that really hit me. I probably have misquoted it. I can’t remember the name of the mediation. I don’t even know if I have spelt…
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Just a reflection on what African fashion is
Take a moment. Think about Africa. What came to mind? Did you think about the landscape? Maybe the Sahara or the Serengeti first popped up. Or perhaps You thought you thought of historical events, maybe the pyramids. Or maybe Afrobeats music. Quick question, was the first thing you thought of poverty? War? Corruption? Look, no…
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A cheap shortcut is more expensive in the long run
I started composing this piece sitting outside in the heat of late summer. Let me tell you, it is not because I wanted to enjoy the summer sun while we still have it. Certainly not because I wanted the health benefits of sweating or humidity. No, it was because I locked my key inside the…
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