Tag: mindset
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Like a spider weaving its web
A spider had overnight spun a massive web, almost taking over the doorway. I took a stick and removed the web, instead getting trapped in there myself. The next morning, I exited to see the spider had returned to spin the web yet again. There is this peculiar thing I’ve noticed when I clean a…
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Have or can
It was a mindset shift. I walked into the kitchen to use the microwave. “Why can’t I keep this thing clean?” Just as quickly I got hit with a reframe, “Why haven’t I done it?” It is a simple idea. There is a difference between can and have. Can is related to ability. By asking…
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Declaring independence
Yesterday, was the July 4th, the day we celebrate independence in the states. So, what day will you celebrate yours? What is going to be the moment, your turning point, that you mark as the time you finally let yourself become free? I don’t mean when did you move out of your parents’ home or…
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Today’s lesson
The lesson I am starting to realize more and more is that it’s me. Despite what others do, my reaction is mostly in my control. I can take control of how I think about what happens. I can make a choice to tend to or shift my emotions. I may not get to choose what…
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I am a great storyteller
I was doomed at work because I had made mistakes, that I would continue to make, and would be found out for not being qualified. And then ultimately, I would be let go. Or at least that is the story I had been telling myself. I had constructed the story, with the inspiration of minor…
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You don’t have to keep that
You know, you don’t have to eat that.” I had been struggling to finish the failed recipe for fear of wasting food. “Here, just turn around, I will throw it out for you.” While I’m not advocating for you to start wasting food, there is something to that. It is okay to get rid of…
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Maintain your light
“Don’t dim your light just to avoid dealing with someone else.” It was a conversation about a workplace issue and how I handled it, but it became much more profound than just a critique of how I go about my job. I immediately expanded and poeticized the saying in my head. “Don’t dim your light…
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The three most important books to me
There are three books you need to check to get an idea of how my life is going. Even just a cursory glance will do. You can easily tell how successful I am based on how full each of those books are. If my journal is empty and has gone untouched for several days, that…
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Me centric life design
I have been diving in the user centered design this week. Essentially, it is thinking about how the people who use a product will experience it and using that to help you design the product. That is an over-simplification, but it gets the job done. I couldn’t help but wonder, am I centering me in…
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The wrong altar
I have come to this altar far too many times. I have made so many sacrifices here over the years. Before it, I placed opportunities and dreams, giving it all up hoping to receive that feeling in return. I gave it all for comfort. But this is the wrong place; I had been ill-advised and…
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