Category: Reflection
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Normalize discomfort
I have been reading Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly. I am approaching the end of the book. As she gives advice to leaders to shift from cultures of shame to [brave cultures] she makes this suggestion: “When it comes to giving and receiving feedback, the stuff is just uncomfortable. Accept it for what it is.”…
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A plate of sweet potatoes
As I ate the plate of sweet potato at Owamni, my mind started to buzz. There was something familiar about the dish. I couldn’t put my finger on it. And then it hit me. It felt like home. Memories came flooding forth, and along with them emotions. In times like now, when I am strapped…
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Excellence is an acquired taste
I stayed in bed an extra three hours. I wasn’t exhausted. I was not falling in out of sleep between two alarms. No. I just didn’t feel like moving, so I didn’t. I have been one of those people, guilty of waiting for motivation to strike. It never does. Or when it does it is…
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is this a superpower?
I cross my legs, fold arms into my body on the plane. I ritually give up the armrest to the person next to me. I slide my backpack as close to my table as possible at the coffee shop. I never realized how often I ensure I take up as little space as possible. I…
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A good mistake
I rushed out of the house to try and an appointment done before work. I sat patiently trying to figure why my name hadn’t been called. 40 minutes went by. I headed back to my car do some digging and discover I was at the wrong location. After a long week of not getting enough…
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Like a spider weaving its web
A spider had overnight spun a massive web, almost taking over the doorway. I took a stick and removed the web, instead getting trapped in there myself. The next morning, I exited to see the spider had returned to spin the web yet again. There is this peculiar thing I’ve noticed when I clean a…
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Have or can
It was a mindset shift. I walked into the kitchen to use the microwave. “Why can’t I keep this thing clean?” Just as quickly I got hit with a reframe, “Why haven’t I done it?” It is a simple idea. There is a difference between can and have. Can is related to ability. By asking…
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Declaring independence
Yesterday, was the July 4th, the day we celebrate independence in the states. So, what day will you celebrate yours? What is going to be the moment, your turning point, that you mark as the time you finally let yourself become free? I don’t mean when did you move out of your parents’ home or…
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Today’s lesson
The lesson I am starting to realize more and more is that it’s me. Despite what others do, my reaction is mostly in my control. I can take control of how I think about what happens. I can make a choice to tend to or shift my emotions. I may not get to choose what…
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The one thing to learn from Jake Paul
Confession, I spent quite a bit of time sucked into a YouTube time suck watching and analyzing Jake Paul’s entry into boxing. There were the prefight weigh-ins, the trash talk sessions, and of course the fights and commentary. And now that he is (probably still) set to fight Mike Tyson, I gotta say I look…
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