A Wren Says

As a recovering people pleaser, I need to start living a life for me, rather than trying so hard to win people over, or get them to think highly of me, or try to get their approval at all. My resolution for 2025 is to disappoint more people.  

I need more people to disapprove of my actions. I need people at the gym to think I’m doing a weird workout, or my form is off. More people to think I’m taking up too much space. More people to think I’m selfish. More people disagreeing with me. And more people to generally think, “I wouldn’t have done it that way.”

I am not going to intentionally go about trying to find all of the ways that I can make people dislike me. But I am going to ask myself if the only reason I am doing this instead of that is because I am afraid of what others will think.

This may be my most difficult resolution yet but the one I will need to keep the most of them all.