Hello, I am indecisive. This has been my plight for years. I have been that person who just closed her eyes and waved her finger over a menu to finally make a choice, and then regret it and try to switch yet again. I have struggled for years, so much so that I started to make inanimate objects decide for me. I would use coin flips repeatedly. I even got to the point of using even and odd times on the clock when I had zero coins. And of course, there was always the “What do you think I should do?” and the popular “I just will sit here and not come to a decision because that is starting to stress me out.” As much comfort I took in relinquishing the responsibilities for my life, I realized that my growth requires I take action and decide for myself. So I gave up indecision last Lent.
These are the rules I set for myself: I had to make all of my decisions for myself. That included no more coin flips or anything that could be considered divination by any culture or games eeny meeny miney moe. I also couldn’t consult other people. Luckily I didn’t have to make any extremely critical life decisions during that time. Let me tell you, that was a rough time. It would have been much easier for me to give up potato chips.
Doing this challenge made me realize just how much of a problem I had. It also made me get to the root of my concerns and learn to trust myself or at least force myself to act.
All of those times when I just wanted to flip a coin, I instead consulted myself. What did I see as the pros and cons? What did I need or want? Why was I struggling with the decision? Was is it a decision I even needed to make? And then I made the choice. It wasn’t really that easy, but it was nowhere near as bad as I had made it seem and definitely took less time.
Now a few months later, I am still keeping up the habit. I still struggle with making decisions, but I go through the process that I picked up. I am more conscious of those times when my first thought is to flip a coin. I have started consulting myself and honing in on what I want and need and what choice will best meet my preferences.
If you find yourself struggling with indecision as well, try taking on a challenge to give it up. It certainly helped me finally make the change to take more control of my life.
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