A Wren Says

Unless you’re a martial artist: Stop making your next move dependent on what everyone else is doing.

Think to yourself, does it really matter that x is doing y? (Or bluntly, what your ex happens to be doing, for those who need to hear it.)

For instance, say all of your friends are already married and starting families. Does that mean it’s the right path for you? And if your younger brother is quickly advancing in his career, do you need you put yourself up for a promotion now? Or what if your social media favorite is living in a van, traveling across the U.S., should you become a nomad as well? Or in contrast, do you need to live your life in protest, going the exact opposite direction? I mean maybe, but not necessarily.

It can be tempting to design a life that is fully influenced by the moves of others. As if you are constantly in defense mode, watching carefully how others are acting so you can better protect your own image. However, you (probably) are not a martial artist. You do not need to study the movements of everyone around you to decide how you should react.

What do you want? What would be good for you? Now if it will be good for you to go down a similar path, by all means start your similar journey as well. But if it’s not, do the next thing that is good for you. (Notice that I did not write what will make you happy. But more on that another day.)